In this post we’re going to discuss one aspect you have to master if you want to meet a lot of women on dating sites – getting women’s phone numbers.

Getting a woman’s number is very easy when you know what you’re doing, and damn near impossible when you don’t.

There’s more to it than just sending a quick, “What’s your number?”

Consistently getting women’s phone numbers boils down to doing three things well:

1.    Attracting or making her curious enough to respond to your email
2.    Qualifying her
3.    Asking for her number the right way

If you mess up any of these three parts, you’re chances of getting a woman’s phone number go way down. But when you get them right, you’ll be rewarded with easily being able to get the phone numbers of the women you’re most attracted to.

Attracting Women Online

If women gave their numbers to every guy that asked, their phones would be ringing non-stop.

To prevent that, women only give their numbers to men they are interested in. I know this seems painfully obvious, but a lot of guys just don’t get that point.

Probably the easiest way to attract women online is by making them laugh. Injecting humor into your emails and your profile is a sure way to get a woman to look twice at you.

I’m not going to go into how to be funny in your emails and profile right now since the topic of this post is getting women’s phone numbers, but just know that you can leverage humor in your emails big time. (For some tips on how to inject humor into your profile and emails, check out this article How to Make Women Laugh.)

The easiest way to make a woman curious about you is to leave something incomplete in her mind. It could be a comment you made to her or something in your profile.

Make women dig a little. Bait her a little bit and then make her come after you to find out the rest.

For the purposes of this blog post, let’s say you’ve attracted a woman or stroked her curiosity enough to get her to respond to your email (or even email you first).

The next thing you’ve got to do is qualify her.

Qualifying A Woman – Making Her Pass Your Tests

One interesting thing I’ve discovered online is if you ask a woman for her number right after she has emailed you, you greatly decrease your chances of getting her number.

You can still get a woman’s phone number that way if you’ve attracted her enough, but your results will be a fraction of what they could be if you qualified her first.

What does qualifying a woman mean? The way I’m using this word, qualifying means to put a woman through a quick screening process to make sure she’s worth your time.

At its core, qualifying a woman just lets her know a pretty face and boobs aren’t enough to make you fall over yourself for her.

Contrast that with what most guys do online. The moment a woman contacts them they act desperate, doing everything they can to avoid losing the woman.

They do this not because the woman is so special, but because they’re afraid of not being able to get another woman.

Don’t do that. Don’t be that guy. Allow a woman to earn her place in your life and she’ll choose to stick around.

You might be thinking, “But how do I email a woman first without showing too much interest in her?”

After I’ve emailed a woman and she thinks I’m interested in her, and then she responds, I do a 180 on her and begin qualifying her rather than showing more interest in her.

I don’t come out and directly say “Why should I talk to you?” or, “What makes you special?” but I ask questions that let her know she hasn’t hooked me yet.

We’ll get to what kind of questions I ask in just a moment, but let me emphasize that the tone of how you ask the questions is more important than the words you use.

For clarity, let’s recap what I’ve done so far.

I’ve emailed a woman and she emailed back, which means she is interested on some level (unless you get a “Thanks, but…” email). At that point she’s expecting me to email her back and show more interest in her like every other guy does.

But this is where things change; this is where I qualify her.

Instead of showing more interest in the woman, I qualify her by asking questions, which we’ll get to in just a moment.

Emails That Get Women’s Numbers Online

Let’s do a quick recap. The three critical things you must do to get a woman’s phone number online are:
1.    you must attract or make her curious enough to respond to your email
2.    you must qualify her
3.    you must ask for her number the right way

Now I’m going to give you some emails that show you exactly how to get a woman’s number.

When a woman responds to my email, as long as she doesn’t send a “Thanks, but…” email, I’ll send her an email like this.

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**MY EMAIL RESPONSE TO HER FIRST EMAIL**

Hey ,

Thanks for your email.

Anyway, I’ve got some questions for you:

- Question #1

- Question #2

- Question #3

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The purpose of this email is to qualify her by asking her a few questions.

After receiving a response from a woman, most guys will immediately ask for her number. That’s an amateur move and why most guys don’t get very many numbers.

If a woman is already really attracted to you based on your looks or your profile, she might give you her number when you ask for it immediately like that.

But most times women won’t give their number that quickly simply because they don’t have a reason to yet. Once again, if women gave their numbers to every guy that asked, they would be bombarded with phone calls from a bunch of guys they’re not interested in.

Instead of asking for her number so quickly, take a step back by asking her a few questions.

The questions can be simple and are better if they are entertaining. For example, questions about current favorite songs, best vacation, and favorite movies are all good questions because they are simple to answer and are interesting.

The point of the questions is to get her to invest more in you, and show her you’re not too eager; that she hasn’t won you over yet.

This immediately differentiates you from most guys online.

After she answers your questions, what’s next?

If she’s asked you some questions too, you can quickly answer them. Be interesting but don’t get too wordy.

The next thing you’ll do is ask for her number. How you ask for her number is critical. Here’s how to do it right:

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**ASKING FOR HER NUMBER**

Hi ,

It sounds like you have a pretty varied taste in music. That’s cool since most people have a one-dimensional taste and are pretty boring.

It sounds like you have some interesting conversation in you, so I’d like to find out more. Let’s grab a drink – what’s your cell?

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I did two very powerful things in this email.

The first thing I did was indirectly qualify her again. I did this by saying “it sounds like you have some interesting conversation in you, so I’d like to find out more.” That’s another way of saying she has earned the privilege to give you her number.

What’s she going to say, “No, I don’t have anything interesting to say.” It’s a compliment at face value, but only if she gives her number. Very clever and very effective.

The second powerful psychological tactic I used was asking for her number almost as an afterthought.

Most guys make asking the woman for her number the climax of the email. What I’ve done instead is made the fun of having an interesting conversation and having a drink together the climax, and her phone number is just a detail to make that happen.

I’ve shown you some very powerful psychology here so you can use it to write the email in your own words.

Your Turn

That’s how to ask a woman for her number and get it.

I’ve given you a very simple formula here that is very effective. Use it.

Once you get good at getting women’s phone numbers, all that’s left is a quick phone call to get a feel for each other on the phone and then set up a time and place to meet up in person.

We’ll talk about what to say on the phone in future posts, but for now, go implement what I’ve shown you to get some phone numbers.

Brandon Duran

There are lots of places to meet women: bars, coffee shops, work, college, speed dating events, through friends and family, grocery stores, the gym, etc.

However, there is one place that is without a doubt the easiest place to meet women: online dating websites.

Not all online dating sites are created equal though. The Best Online Dating Sites

There are many reasons why online dating is the easiest way to meet women:

1.    You can meet women at any time of day or night.
2.    You’ll come across women you never would have met while going to the same old places you always go to.
3.    You can quickly meet many women at once, rather than meeting only one woman at a time.
4.    It allows you to find out exactly which women are interested in you from the start.
5.    It doesn’t require very much time, money or effort.
6.    There is a never ending supply of women on dating sites.
7.    If you travel a lot, you can have women waiting for you when your plane touches down.
8.    You don’t have to deal with interruptions like you do at bars.
9.    The competition online sucks, which means you can dominate pretty easily once you write a few good emails.
10.    You’re able to get a better feel for a woman before meeting her in person, that way if she’s not what you’re looking for personality-wise, you don’t have to waste your time meeting her.
11.    Women on dating sites are single and actively looking for men to date!
12.    It’s very low pressure. You don’t have to approach like you would in a bar, so if you hate doing that, you’ll never have to again.
13.    It allows you to consistently meet many women, day in and day out, without feast or famine cycles.

The Top Three Reasons Why Online Dating Is The Easiest Way To Meet Women

The list of advantages online dating offers could go on forever, but here are the top three reasons why online dating is the easiest way to meet women:

Success on dating sites boils down to getting women to respond positively to your emails.

The average looking guy can’t and shouldn’t wait for women to email him first.

If you are good looking, you might get some women emailing you first, but don’t stake your success on waiting for women to make the first move.

Getting good at emailing women is absolutely critical to meeting a lot of women online, and this article shows you how to do that.

Unsuccessful vs. Successful

The average guy does nearly everything wrong when he emails women, and that’s why his results suck. This is his experience; see if it sounds familiar:

•    He becomes obsessed with one or two women he thinks are perfect for him
•    He’s not sure what to say when he finally works up the courage to email those women (if he ever does)
•    He spends hours writing and rewriting one single email to one woman
•    He only sends out a few emails a month
•    Women don’t respond to his emails
•    He’s not sure why he doesn’t get responses to his emails
•    If a woman doesn’t respond to his first email, he never emails her again
•    He finally becomes so frustrated with his lack of results he just quits online dating, convinced it’s just a scam.

Guys that are successful on dating sites do almost the exact opposite when it comes to emailing women. This is the successful guy’s experience:

One of the easiest ways to increase your chances for success online is by having access to more women. Lucky for you this simply means going to where the women already are online.

There are thousands of dating sites today, and most of them completely suck.

In fact, some of those sites pay people to create fake profiles. They do this to make it appear like there are more women on the site than there really are, which could then influence your decision to become a paying member on their site.

However, there are a few sites on the internet crawling with real women. In the U.S. there are two websites that stand out amongst the thousands of others in terms of consistently attracting the most women.

The two websites I’m referring to are Match.com and PlentyOfFish.com, and they couldn’t be more different from one another.

Both of these websites are good in their own ways, but the most important thing they have going for them is they are both filled with beautiful women.

Match is kind of like the suburbs, safe but sometimes boring and predictable. Plenty of Fish is like downtown in a big city – exciting and a little dangerous. You could meet someone great or you could get stabbed. I’m just joking, so don’t get scared off yet.