I remember a few years back when I was unsuccessful at online dating sites.

Back then I would try things haphazardly, and as you might imagine, my results were spotty because of that.

Once I got more consistent though, magically I started having more consistent results.

And that consistency is ultimately what is responsible for my success today.

Most Guys Don’t Have A Plan

Most guys have no plan when it comes to online dating. Is it any surprise then why their results are so bad?

Imagine not having a plan in your career. If you had no plan, what are your chances of ending up in a career you enjoy?

It’s crazy how many people in life have no plan for getting the things they want. Most people sit around waiting for things to fall into their lap.

Life doesn’t work that way, especially not dating.

Attractive women can sit around and wait to be hit on, and that method works pretty well for them. But as a guy, you’ve got to go after what you want.

The easiest way to do that is with a plan.

I’m not talking about turning your dating life into a business with deadlines and projections and stuff like that. I’m simply talking about a plan to take specific actions to get you what you want.

Here are some examples of specific actions you can take to get more women into your life:

• emailing a certain number of women every night
• trying new emails
• tracking your emails to find which ones work best
• rewriting your profile once in a while
• following up with the women you email
• making time to take women out

These are just a few examples, but if you consistently took just these actions, you would be way ahead of most guys on dating sites and well on your way to dating the women you want.

Of course, you’ll want to tailor your plan to fit your goals.

If you want a girlfriend you might make one of your action steps to only email women with things in common with you.

If you just want to meet and date a lot of different women, your action step might be to just email a set number of women every night that you find attractive, regardless of what you two have in common.

Nothing Happens Until Something Moves

“Nothing happens until something moves.” – Albert Einstein

Having a plan is not going to get women into your life. Taking consistent action on that plan will.

Consistent action. That’s two words, and both are necessary to move you closer to your goals.

You don’t have to accomplish everything in one day, and this is where you’re plan comes in. Decide on what actions you want to take every day, and then take those actions.

Another huge benefit of taking specific actions every day, besides the increase in results you’ll experience, is it prevents you from getting discouraged and giving up like most guys do.

When you consistently take the right actions, all that can happen is you’re going to get better. That’s it. It probably won’t happen over night, but you’ll get there as long as you stay consistent.

What To Do Now

Write up a quick plan using the actions I listed above as a starting point. After you’ve done that, make the decision to consistently take those actions.

You might want to start kind of easy at first so you get some momentum going.

For example, you could start by emailing five women every night. That won’t take up very much of your time but it could drastically increase your results.

Don’t put this off. Create a plan right now and get to the next level in your dating life.

Brandon Duran

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