Dating sites can get pretty discouraging when you’re not getting any responses.

After all, meeting women on the internet is supposed to be easier than meeting women in real life, otherwise why would you even try to meet women on the internet, right?

When you see women at a bar surrounded by a bunch of drunk idiots trying to pick up on them, it’s only natural the women are a little defensive and hard to meet. That makes sense.

But when women sign up on dating sites, you expect them to be more open to meeting men. Otherwise why would they be on there?

Do they just sign up to get attention from men?

Maybe, but there’s more to it than just that.

This probably isn’t a shock to you, but women are just as picky on dating sites as they are in real life. This can be very hard for most guys to stomach, but it actually works out in your favor.

Let’s look at this from a different angle.

I prefer women that are slim, and I think most guys do. Of course, there are some curvy women that are beautiful too, but there’s a fine line between being curvy and being portly.

Let’s think about this from a woman’s perspective; a woman that happens to be “bigger.”

Let’s say this bigger woman notices men tend to prefer slimmer women, which makes her angry.

She feels like she doesn’t have a chance if guys won’t look past her weight before deciding if they like her or not.

Does that woman’s opinion affect the types of women you are attracted to? Does it make you feel guilty for being attracted to slim women?

Hell no, it doesn’t! You like what you like. It’s not personal.

It’s not like you’re going to magically decide, “You know, you’re right. Bigger women need love too. I’m sorry for ever being attracted to slim women.”

This same process applies for women too.

Women are attracted to what they are attracted to regardless of how men feel about it.

This is why worrying about how picky women can be in terms of finding a man is a waste of your time.

Women are going to be attracted to what they are attracted to, just like men are going to be attracted to what they are attracted to.

This is why it’s definitely worth your time to find out what women are attracted to.

If you knew exactly what women on dating sites were most attracted to, do you think you could increase your response rates?

Hell yeah, you could!

Luckily for guys, our attractiveness isn’t set in stone. We can quickly become more attractive to women by changing just a few behaviors.

One behavior that women find irresistible online is humor. Without a doubt, making a woman laugh is your biggest leverage point on dating sites.

When you make a woman laugh, you have a much greater chance of getting a response from her.

It’s very hard for most people to be funny online, so when you can make a woman laugh with just a few words in your profile or email, it stands out big time.

That’s enough to catch a woman’s eye, and get her to open up a little bit to you.

Here’s an example of a funny profile that was featured on the Best of Craigslist (http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/ftc/922341081.html). Pick up on the tone – it’s the type of sarcastic humor that works perfectly on dating sites:

“Seeking a man that’s at least 6 feet tall. I like to wear high heels” – Damn, totally boned here. I’m only 5’8 or maybe 5’9′, apparently equaling “somewhere between midget and elf, and therefore undatable”, even though the average American male height is 5’10. And 6 feet tall? What kind of shoes are you wearing anyway? Some shit from the lunar landing? Next…

“Must love animals” - Great… You mean I have to pretend to like your floofy poodle/chihuahua/norway rat mixed breed long enough to maybe earn some kisses? Or that huge mastiff that’s physically capable of kicking me out of your bed? How about the cat that’s contemplating using my balls as a scratching post every time I walk around in my boxers? I think I’ll exit stage right before the fucker eats my socks again.

“Looking for a God-fearing man” – I get the biggest kick out of this one. Why would you be afraid of your own imaginary friend? Seems like you’d better imagine something a little less hostile. I’d suggest Papa Smurf.

“Must like the outdoors” - Barring a select few dweebs I’ve met that live in their parents’ basement and mainline Mountain Dew so they can play World of Warcraft for 87 hours straight, most human beings like being outside at some point. Sure, I’ll go for a day hike with you. Does that mean I want to live in the woods for a month and wipe my ass with a pine cone? No thanks!

“Looking for friends first” – Cool, I’m always down for more friends. Wait, what’s that you say? Your hot friend Brittany is single? Excuse me while I ask her for her phone number.

“Must love children” – Unlike the mighty lion (who will kill and eat cubs from rival males) I say the more kids, the better! We can open our own sweatshop and they can make you shoes. I call being the manager!

“I like having fun” – Whew, what a relief! I’m meeting too many people these days that think having fun sucks. I’m a big fan of fun myself! We have so much in common.

“Must like to dance” – Really? Have you ever met a straight guy that wants to go dancing? Wait, I take that back. I do know one guy, but he’s from Puerto Rico or something. Come to think of it, he’s probably gay. That’s right, Jorge – I’ve got you figured out.

“I like going out, but also enjoy staying in for a quiet night at home” – That’s great, because staying home or going out and doing something are pretty much the only two options you have.

So in conclusion, I say the luck of the Irish be with you lovely ladies of Fort Collins in your search for a badass Daniel Craig-era James Bond lookalike that will dance the Macarena with Mr. Cuddlekins the Poodle whilst purchasing you an all-expenses-paid vacation to Maui. Just keep in mind that Mr. Bond is only 5’10.

****Oh, and if you can break the bounds of the above mentioned issues (and you’re hot) send me an email. We can trade pictures or baseball cards. But no trade backs.****

The Best Of on Craigslist (http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/all/) is a goldmine for inspiration. You’ll find some hilarious posts there that you can use as templates to write something of your own.

What I wanted to emphasize in this post is, yes, women on dating sites are picky.

However, most women are on dating sites to meet men, not shoot them down.

Be the guy she wants to meet by compelling her interest in some way. I gave you a very powerful example of how to do that in this post.

Now it’s your turn to create something of your own. If you’re stuck, go check out the Best Of on Craigslist to get your creative juices flowing.

Brandon Duran

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