For obvious reasons, a lot of guys want to know when it’s okay to talk about sex with women.

It only seems fair to discuss sex with a new woman at some point, right?

Wrong!

If you’ve been on dating sites, you’ve surely noticed how many women directly state in their profile something to the effect that they don’t want to receive sexual propositions through email.

Why do you think so many women have to say that in their profile?

It’s because some guys think if they talk to a woman about sex, the chances of her having sex with them increases.

Nope, it doesn’t work like that.

When a guy propositions a woman for sex through email, or he makes references to sex in his profile, it screams at her that she’s dealing with a little boy who isn’t very experienced with women.

Talking about sex with a woman before you’ve talked to her in person just ends up looking creepy, and like you’re in desperate need of sex, but can’t get any.

I don’t know of any women who find desperation attractive.

The Biggest Reason Not To Talk About Sex With New Women

There is a very big reason I don’t talk about sex with a woman before being intimate with her.

You actually decrease your chances of having sex with a woman when you bring up sex too soon. It’s like revealing your cards. You convey that the woman has already won you over.

Women don’t want what they can easily have. Most women like to work for your attraction and attention, even if just a little bit.

By not bringing up sex so quickly, like most guys do, you convey you’re a challenge and she’ll have to work a little bit harder to win you over, which creates attraction.

There’s another reason I don’t talk to women about sex before being intimate – because it kills spontaneity.

Things can’t “just happen” when you’ve been bringing it up all night or on the phone or though email.

By not talking about sex, you don’t put up a bunch of barriers in a woman’s mind to doing things with you, such as going back to your place after a date.

Women Who Talk About Sex

Some women like to bring sex up (by email or on the phone) to see how far you’ll take the conversation. This is almost always a test.

If she mentions sex, address the topic and then move on to the next topic. If you linger, you convey that a woman has sexual control over you; she mentions sex, you jump. That’s an attraction killer for most women.

You can’t have sex with a woman through email over the phone anyway, so why start that conversation at that time? Wait until you’re in person with her, when things could actually happen.

The Best Time To Talk About Sex

Hopefully you now understand why bringing up sex with a new woman only makes it harder to have sex with her.

So when is the best time to talk about sex with a new woman?

The best time to talk about sex before being intimate with a woman for the first time is never. Words can only put up barriers.

Rather than talking, use body language to transition to sex.

When the chemistry is right and you and a woman are in place where you two could actually have sex, the easiest way to get things rolling is by kissing. Kissing leads to touching, which then leads to clothes coming off.

For some guys this will seem absolutely obvious, and for others it will be a major realization.

The take home message is don’t bring up sex in your profile, emails or over the phone.

Brandon Duran

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