Ask the average guy on a dating site what kind of men he thinks women on the site are looking for and you’ll get some variation of “tall, super good-looking and in great shape.”

In forums and on blogs everywhere guys complain about the ridiculous competition on dating sites.

Read a few of the rants and they all begin to sound the same: “Women have it so easy on dating sites. There are so many more guys on dating sites than women that women only go for the best-looking guys, which means average guys get scraps at best.”

Oh cry me a river.

If that quote mirrors your feelings, I’ve got some good news for you.

In a recent poll about the men women are attracted to, 91% of women say they prefer guys with flaws rather than a guy who is perfect.

An article discussing the results of this poll revealed some other interesting female preferences too, such as two-thirds of women prefer a naturally hairy guy, and about half of women prefer a chubbier man over a toned one. Lots of women prefer geeky dudes too.

Although the results of the poll were interesting and give fat, hairy, geeky dudes everywhere hope, what I found more revealing were some of the comments left by women.

It’s easy to chalk up the results of the poll as being flukes, but women leaving comments about the articles had nothing to gain by leaving comments one way or another, so it’s safe to say they reflect their true feelings.

Their comments reinforce what the poll results claimed.

For example, check out this one:

“Whether women like to admit it or not a man with big muscles who spends more time getting ready then they do is intimidating.

“I have been with my “geek” for almost 15 years and have been asked “why?” quite a few times, but truthfully its because he makes me laugh, is very smart, challenges me and makes me feel like I am the only woman in the world.

“Although yes, it can vary a bit from woman to woman, these are truly the type of characteristics women want and so If every man clued into the importance of them, then I would honestly say there is hope for ALL of you!”
- Kirsten, Canada, 20/2/2010 17:03

I found a few other interesting comments left for a different article discussing the same poll:

Monday 22 February By kaye:
“Cuddly physique, facial hair, chest hair, geeky…so spot on for me! That’s kind of incredible. I wouldn’t go so far as to say it’s my absolute ideal, but it’s a very attractive, comfortable “type” for me and my boyfriend of 1.5 years falls into all of those categories. He isn’t intimidating, he makes me feel safe, we have overlapping interests and he’s got some of that rugged masculinity to boot!

“Either way, it’s great to see that I’m not the only one with a silly and/or inappropriate secret type of guy! Some of the ones listed got a chuckle out of me. Great article as usual.”

And here’s another comment from a different woman about that same article:

Friday 26 February By Alison:
“I love the slightly pudgy, not too tall (5’9″-5’11″) with wavy blonde (a little curly, not too) hair type. That’s my favorite. I can’t think of someone with the body, but Simon Baker is a good example of the hair. Really ripped body builder types are kind of gross.”

You’ve heard it straight from women’s mouths. A small minority of women are looking for guys that look like models, while most women are perfectly happy and even prefer average-looking men with a few flaws.

This blog post is just a long way of saying regardless of what you look like, there are women out there that find you irresistible, as hard as that may be to believe.

Of course, the other side of that coin is there are other women who won’t be attracted to you, but don’t focus your time on those women. Focus your time on the women who are attracted to you and who you’re attracted to.

If you haven’t been emailing the women you’re most attracted to for fear of being shot down because you’re not her type, this poll is all the reason you need to go ahead and email those women now. You’ve got nothing to lose.

See you next time,

Brandon Duran

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