Your email sequence on dating sites has two objectives: to break the ice with a woman and then get her phone number. Once you have a good email sequence, you’ll get numbers every time you send out emails.

Of course, not every woman will give you their number or even email you back, but a solid email sequence will allow you to get lots of phone numbers from attractive women.

What about women that ask you for your number?

If an attractive woman asks you for your number first obviously you’ll want to give it to her, but get her number too just in case she chickens out when it comes time to calling you.

In cases where you ask a woman for her number and she responds with some variation of “Why don’t you give me your number instead?” there is zero point in giving her your number.

Giving the woman your number ends the interaction with her right there. She will not call you and she will not give you her number, and she will usually stop answering your emails too.

Why then do women even ask for your number then if they aren’t going to call you?

Women ask for your number rather than giving you their number for a variety of reasons.

Sometimes you haven’t built up enough attraction with the woman; other times it could be that she was just being polite when responding to your emails but she’s not interested in you.

Or it could be a lot of other guys have asked her for her number too and she doesn’t want a bunch of random guys calling her.

Or maybe she’s trying to be cautious since there are so many wackos in the world.

Regardless of the reason why a woman asks for your number rather than giving you hers, it comes down to one simple conclusion – if she were really interested in you she would give you her number.

Women That Are Attracted To You Make Dating Easy

Women that are attracted and/or interested in you make it easy for you to get to the next step. If you ask a woman for her number she’ll give it to you. If you call her, she’ll answer. If you ask her out, she’ll accept.

Women who make getting to the next step difficult for you aren’t interested in you. There are some women that just make things difficult even if they like you, but that’s definitely not the kind of women most guys prefer.

So the simple answer is no. If a woman asks for your number rather than giving you hers when you ask, don’t give it to her. She’s not going to call and the interaction will end there if you do give her your number.

If you’re still interested in the woman you can try one last thing.

You can challenge her to make a decision one way or another – give you her number or hit the road.

That’s a very direct and possibly aggressive approach, but it saves you time in case you’re dealing with a woman who just wants to play games.

You can challenge a woman this way by sending her another email along the lines of, “If you were interested you would leave your number. Best wishes”

An email like this is simple and to the point. A woman will understand that she can give you her number or just move on.

This won’t work every time because, remember, a woman who didn’t give you her number the first time you asked probably wasn’t very interested to begin with.

However, I understand there are times when you’re still attracted to a woman and want to try one last time, even if there is only a small chance for success. You have nothing to lose at that point anyway with the woman, so go ahead and email her if you still want.

So there you have it. Now you know the only circumstances you should give your number to a woman. Remember though, playing games with women about getting their numbers should be the exception, not the rule.

If you find that you have to play games with women when you ask for their number, tweak your email sequence and profile.

If you’re having other problems when you ask women for their number, leave your situation below in the comments.

Brandon Duran

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