One of the simplest and quickest ways to date hotter women is by raising your standards.

Most guys do the opposite though; they lower their standards. Lowering standards only makes sense when you acknowledge most guys don’t feel like they can get the women they are most attracted to.

This article will show you how to raise your standards in a way women find irresistible, which in turn will help you meet and date hotter women, even if you currently think they are out of your league.

Having High Standards Makes You More Attractive To Women

Most beautiful and emotionally healthy women are not attracted to guys who have low standards in terms of the women they date.

Women view men who have high standards as confident, and therefore attractive.

For guys who have high standards, a woman has to bring more to the table.

That means in addition to being physically attractive a woman might have to be smart, have her life together, be in great shape, be financially independent, etc., depending on what the particular guy is looking for.

The key is women have to work a little harder to win over guys with high standards, which creates a challenge for women.

Because most guys become door mats the moment an attractive woman shows them any attention, a guy that challenges her immediately differentiates him in her mind in a good way.

People in general, and especially most women, want what they can’t have. Most people don’t respect what they don’t have to work for. Having high standards is one way to show a woman she can’t have you, unless of course she exceeds your standards and plays by your rules.

Imagine for a minute two guys who are about equal in looks, income, height, etc., but with one big difference – one guy is quickly won over by the women he dates while the other guy seems to have little tests or standards women must pass before he accepts them.

In other words, for the first guy, women can tell after just a phone conversation or a date or two that he is really into them. In essence, those women won him over simply by being present.

For the other guy, rather than being satisfied with a woman after just a date or two, he makes her work a little harder to prove herself. Simply spending time with him isn’t enough to win him over.

Which guy do you think will be more attractive to the women he dates?

It should be very obvious that when a woman has to work for something she will appreciate it more. Given the above scenario, the first guy will quickly lose his women to the second guy.

Women Don’t Apologize For Having High Standards

On average, women are much more selective with the men they date than men are about the women they date.

The interesting thing about this is women don’t feel guilty or apologize for expecting more from the men they date.

For example, Match.com recently published an article discussing how some women feel about the amount of money a man earns.

Here is a comment from a woman named Haley who was interviewed in the article:

“My current boyfriend pays for everything and I think I make more than he does, but I like it that way because it feels romantic, caring and chivalrous. Dating a man without money is really tough because you end up paying for everything and that wears on you after awhile.”

The part of Haley’s comment that really stuck out to me was she doesn’t want to pay all the time because she feels that it “wears on you after awhile,” but she is perfectly fine with her boyfriend paying all the time.

I’m not judging Haley’s view one way or the other. I include it only to show a woman who doesn’t apologize for one trait she wants in a man.

In the same article, Liz said, “Guys without money to burn need to work a little harder.” This is just another example of a woman stating what she wants, and making no apology for it.

As a guy, you too, are allowed to set your standards anywhere you want without apology or guilt.

Women aren’t going to judge you for having high standards (it’s not their place to tell you what you should want or deserve), but you will be more attractive to many women simply by having high standards. That’s makes having high standards a win-win for you.

The Most Effective Way To Demonstrate That You Have High Standards For Women

There are many ways to demonstrate you have high standards for the women you date. The major difference is whether the way you communicate your standards makes you more or less attractive to women.

Simply barking orders at women and telling them how and what they should be to please you will only make you look like a jackass and turn women off.

However, when you convey, in a charming way, that you expect more from women than just a pretty face, it triggers attraction in women, even if you’re not their type.

One of the most effective ways to communicate you have high standards in a charming way is by using humor.

I do this is in my profile by listing a few “deal breakers” but wording them in a funny way that many women find charismatic.

For example, I am turned off by women who shave their eyebrows off and then paint them on with makeup. Disgusting! Here is one way I have addressed this in my profile with humor:

If your only emotion is SURPRISE!! because you paint your eyebrows on, I’m not your guy. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not looking for a drama queen, but I want to know when you’re happy too, and a smile with crazy eyebrows just doesn’t go together.

Contrast that with, “Chicks with painted-on eyebrows gross me out!” That just doesn’t have the same charm.

Another way to charismatically demonstrate you have high standards is to state what you’re looking for in multiple ways without saying it directly.

For example, if you like only very skinny or very physically fit women, rather than saying “No Fat Chicks!” in your profile, you could say something like:

I believe in keeping myself in great physical shape and am looking for a woman who does the same. I go to the gym pretty consistently, but I know there are a lot of women who just have great genes. Either option works for me!

These are just a few ways you can demonstrate your high standards in a way that increases a woman’s attraction toward you rather than turns her off. There are many other ways to do this just as effectively.

In this article we discussed why women are attracted to men who have high standards. By demonstrating you have high standards, and communicating those standards to women in a charming way, you will attract hotter women.

Find a few places in your profile where you can demonstrate you have high standards for the women you date using the tips I gave you in this article. Let me know how it goes or if you’re having trouble with how to word something in particular.

Brandon Duran

I’ve seen several “coaches” and bloggers in the online dating niche give the advice to test your profile pictures on picture rating sites like www.HotOrNot.com to find out which pictures are your best.

Testing is always a good idea because it will increase your results when done consistently and in the right way (see How to Get Women to Email You Back).

However, when you conduct tests you want to make sure the conditions for the test are as close to the real world as possible. Testing in “practice” or manufactured environments can give you very misleading results.

My Results On HotOrNot.com

A few years ago I tested my pictures on HorOrNot.com and had to laugh at the results. I was routinely rated in the range of 2 to 4 out of 10.

I by no means have model good looks, but I would have to resemble Sloth from The Goonies to be in the 2 range.

Back when I tried HotOrNot.com there was a function where you could see individual ratings for each number from one to 10. In other words, you could see how many people rated you a 9, 10, 1, 2, etc.

When I looked at the range for my various pictures I found a few votes in the 5 to 10 range, and a cluster of votes in the 1 to 2 range. Hmm…

I find it very unlikely there are scores of women rating guys 1’s and 2’s consistently. I’m just guessing here, but I think it’s much more likely those votes were coming from guys with fragile egos.

Skewed results like that don’t teach you anything. The reason I’m fairly certain the ratings on my pictures were bullshit was because of the feedback I got from real women on dating sites about my pictures.

I sometimes get comments like “Hey, handsome,” or “Great smile!” or “You’re welcome for the wink! You’re a very good looking guy” on dating sites. If I was really a 1 or 2 I would never get emails like that.

The point is if I were to rely solely on feedback from the picture rating sites I would likely be mislead as to which pictures are good and which are bad.

The Worst Thing About Picture Rating Sites

There is an even bigger problem with picture rating sites, which is you have no idea what kind of women are rating your pictures.

Now read closely, this is the important part.

If you’re conducting tests with the goal of increasing responses, you want to make damn sure you’re testing the right audience. In this case, that means conducting tests on the kind of women you’re interested in.

Testing on anyone other than your intended audience will skew your results.

The Easiest Way To Get True Ratings On Your Pictures

Rather than posting your pictures on sites where anyone from 10 year-olds to grandma’s to closet gay guys trolling male pictures can rate your pictures, test your pictures on the kind of women you’re actually interested in.

How do you do that?

The simplest way to get only women you’re interested in to tell you which pictures are your best is to…
ask them.

You can do this on dating sites (or Facebook) by emailing or IMing them and asking them something to the effect:

Subject: Can I ask a quick favor?

Message:

Hey,

I just got on here and I’m trying to decide on a few pictures that “show me off.” So the quick favor is: would you check out my pictures and tell me which two are best and which two I should take down? I’m not looking for a therapist here, just a quick female opinion.

You won’t offend me, so feel free to be completely honest.

Thanks, you rock!

Send that to 10 women of the caliber you’re interested in. Maybe just two out of those 10 women might email you back, but those two opinions will be worth more than the garbage results you get from picture rating sites.

Send it to a few more groups of women and you’ll find out very quickly which are you best pictures and which pictures suck.

The women you email can be from anywhere, that way you won’t waste any opportunities with women in the area where you live.

Pictures Aren’t Going To Get You Laid

Remember though, your pictures will get you only so far, unless of course you have model good looks. In that case feel free to email “duh” to women and you’ll still get numbers.

If that’s not the case, you’ll want to focus more of your time on writing emails that get you to the next step in the interaction with women. If your emails rock, you can have mediocre pictures and still get lots of numbers.

Of course, you want to give yourself every advantage, so definitely pick some pictures that present you in a good light.

Till next time,

Brandon Duran