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Most guys think Facebook is the best place to meet women online. That is also why most guys can’t meet any women online.
- Brandon Duran
Facebook has taken over the Internet and currently has something like 500 million users. At the time of this writing, Facebook is the second most visited website in the world (Google is still currently number one).
There are tons of beautiful women on Facebook, much more so than all the dating sites combined, so it seems like Facebook would be the ideal place to meet women.
Obstacle #1 for Meeting Women on Facebook
Even though there are so many women on Facebook, I still prefer meeting women on dating sites. Why? The answer comes down to the different intentions of women on Facebook versus dating sites.
Most women on dating sites have joined with one intention in mind – meeting people to date. In contrast, many women on Facebook might be open to meeting specific men, but that’s not why they are on there.
In other words, it takes a lot less effort and time to get a woman’s number and then move things offline on dating sites than it does on Facebook.
When you email a woman on a dating site, she knows exactly why you’re emailing her. You don’t have to spend weeks making small talk or IMing just to put in your time before asking for her number, like on Facebook.
On dating sites, after you have made a woman laugh with just an email or two (or even your profile), you can then pretty quickly get her number and then take things offline. The same cannot be said about Facebook.
Quickly asking women for their numbers on Facebook ends up making you look creepy or sleazy. And even in the cases where women don’t block you, they just evade giving you their number.
You can’t fault women for making it difficult to get their numbers on Facebook though. There are tons of losers every day that bombard them with phone number requests, which is why women have to be evasive about giving out their numbers on Facebook.
Intention is just one obstacle to meeting women on Facebook, but there is an even bigger one.
The Biggest Obstacle to Meeting Women on Facebook
To many women, especially women in their 20′s, Facebook is a popularity contest. This usually means whoever has the most and coolest friends wins.
This means when you “approach” a woman on Facebook, she will be judging not only you, but your entire social circle when deciding whether to give you her number or meet up with you.
You likely don’t spend hours on Facebook every day like many women do, and you probably don’t have hundreds or thousands of “friends” like many women do. Also, you likely don’t have five hundred photos on Facebook like many women do.
For a woman who is “Facebook Crazy,” all of that matters when deciding to give you her number or not, even if you can attract them with your emails. That’s a very big hurdle to get passed.
What I Personally Don’t Like about Meeting Women on Facebook
Since many women want to judge your social circle on Facebook like I described above, they will want to become friends. My problem with that is there are a lot of emotionally crazy women, and the last thing I want them having is a ton of personal information about me.
Becoming Facebook friends with new women especially becomes a problem when you’re dating multiple women. Getting tagged with when you’re out with various women you’re dating, in addition to comments left on your wall, can quickly cause problems and drama.
For me, the simple way around that problem is not becoming Facebook friends with women I hardly know or have just started dating.
Some people will say I can apply filters to allow new women to see only the bare minimum about me. I prefer to spend my time meeting and dating new women rather than playing with filters and security settings on Facebook.
What About these Techniques for Meeting Women on Facebook?
There are a lot of articles online about meeting women on Facebook. One method I have heard other guys recommend is to friend request women you’re not interested in with the intention of meeting her friends that you are interested in.
This method can work, but once again, it’s a lot more work than just meeting women on dating sites. Also, if you become the guy who only talks to women when you want to meet one of their friends, you quickly become the “creepy, desperate Facebook guy.”
And to keep up with a bunch of women you’re not interested in just to have access to their friends, well, doesn’t that just seem like a backwards way of getting what you want?
Why not just talk to the women you’re interested in to begin with?
Another method I have heard some guys use for meeting women on Facebook is by becoming the social hub who plans parties and other meet ups. The goal is to meet attractive women by getting them to come to your parties.
That is so much more work than is necessary to meet attractive women, not to mention, just because you get a woman to your party doesn’t mean you’re going to be the one chatting her up.
However, if you’re in college, or the type to throw a party every week, this method might be worth trying to see if it opens some doors for you.
The Bottom Line
This article was a long way of saying if you’re looking to meet women online, dating sites are the place you should spend most of your time, not Facebook.
If you have had some success meeting women on Facebook, by all means, keep using it.
But I highly recommend you try some dating sites too. I’m guessing you’ll be pleasantly surprised by how much easier and faster it is to move the interaction offline on dating sites versus Facebook.
Brandon Duran
