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Welcome to the first of many articles that give examples of women to avoid on dating sites.
These featured profiles or emails might include the whole profile or just snippets, but in each case they will demonstrate abnormal behavior that you want to avoid if you want to keep your sanity when meeting women on dating sites.
For guys new on dating sites, beauty can be very persuasive, regardless of personality. In other words, many guys can overlook a lot of personality flaws as long as a woman is beautiful.
That is not a problem until you find yourself on the receiving end of psychotic phone calls at three in the morning or when it’s guessing time at who vandalized your car (again).
After you have dated a bat shit crazy woman (or two), you realize it’s necessary to have more criteria for women you date than only that they look great on your arm.
The Goal of the Women to Avoid Series
The Women to Avoid series is all about helping you avoid women that have a very high probability of becoming a nightmare in your dating life.
Women included in the Women to Avoid series will remain nameless to protect their privacy and I ask that if you somehow come across these women’s profiles, that you respect their privacy by not calling them out or contacting them.
The first winner of the coveted “Women to Avoid” title is a woman who I like to call Miss Deal Breaker.
The type of women who embody the qualities of “Miss Deal Breaker” like to include a long list of things they find unacceptable in men. If you happen to have any of the qualities or habits listed in the “deal breaker list,” you are expressly instructed not to email these women.
The following excerpt is from Miss Deal Breaker’s profile. I have left it as she had it with the exception of adding in some spaces where necessary. Apparently, tapping the space bar after commas and before parenthetical expressions was just too time consuming for her.
Without further ado, I give you Miss Deal Breaker:
**UPDATE: If any of the following apply to you no need to read further and do NOT contact me**
-Habitual liar (I’m grown I dont have time for the drama lying brings, the truth may hurt, may be upset, but I will respect you more for having the balls to be honest)
-Shady (you have some huge drama happen to you everyday & use it as an excuse for d!ck!n me over)
-Hateful/Cruel (name calling, throwing sh*t in someone’s face, degrading/belittling someone, saying things out of anger or frustration, act like an adult and use some self control!)
-Say you will do something then dont follow through (my BIGGEST PET PEEV!!)
-Stand People Up (um yeah…)
-Dont call when you should: running late, say you may or may not come over, say you will call etc. (I know life happens but it takes 2 seconds to let someone know, dont leave someone hanging, its a respect thing people)
-Sadistic (if you go out of your way to hurt, get a rise, or play head games with someone to see if they care, all I gotta say is karma is a b!tch)
-If your fight or flight response is geared toward flight when things get rough, keep it moving (I want a MAN that has fight in him)
-Serial Texter (expecting to get to know, date, fall in love, fight,& breakup via text messages, you CANT know tone of voice, body language, facial expressions, emotions, SH*T CAN BE TAKEN WRONG!!)
-Don’t know how to treat a WOMAN (I am a grown ass woman dont pull the BS you run on girls with me)
-Can’t admit a mistake (you’re human I dont expect perfection, I do expect someone to admit when they messed up & do what it takes to make it right, as I would do the same)
-jealous (I want a man thats proud to have me on his arm & like that other guys are looking at what he’s got)
-Can’t communicate (seriously if u cant have a grown adult conversation to resolve an issue dont waste my time, I want a MAN that has a pair thank you very much
-ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!! (I know when to try harder and when to walk away, if you tell me you like me then treat me like sh*t I will be nothing but a memory)
I am REALLY easy to get along with as long as you treat me with respect. I am by no means bitter or a man hater just trying to weed out the boys from the MEN! So if you’ve made it this far CONGRATS you win the golden ticket lol
What a winner!
This list of deal breakers made up the majority of this woman’s profile, although she did include a few clichés that describe her personality, such as she loves to laugh and looks good in heels.
Other than that though, she leaned on her looks to get guys to respond to her. The problem with that is even if this woman has the looks of a super model (she doesn’t) you couldn’t pay me to deal with her childish personality and slanted view of the world.
The most telling thing in this woman’s profile isn’t her ridiculously long and unnecessary list of deal breakers, it’s at the end of her profile when she says, “I am REALLY easy to get along with.”
Yeah, sure you are cupcake.
From her list of things she won’t deal with, it sounds like she has dated a lot of guys with a lot of bad qualities. Whose fault is that? The answer is obvious, after all, she picked all those guys.
Is it fair for every guy she dates in the future to be punished by her past dating mistakes? Of course not. But any guy choosing to date this woman will pay for the past mistakes and bad habits of her previous dates and boyfriends.
One Other Thing We Can Learn from Miss Deal Breaker
I hope you enjoyed this first inclusion in the Women to Avoid series, and I want to leave you with one other thing we can learn from this woman.
Just as women who continually choose to date men with bad qualities can’t complain about those bad qualities (since they choose to date those men again and again), the converse is true as well.
If you continually date psychotic women with “daddy issues” or emotional problems, you can’t blame anyone but yourself after you’ve noticed the trend a few times.
The easy solution to this problem is to have higher standards for the women you date.
Brandon Duran
Brandon,
I need your advice. I was contacted by a Miss Deal Breaker, but I don’t fit the criteria on her page. She is not looking for a relationship, but I am. She should know that if she read my profile, lol. I must admit it is a little confusing. She’s attractive and older than me. I’m thinking she’s looking for a poor naive soul to use and abuse. Am I right?
Hey Bob,
The short answer is it comes down to whether you’re interested in her or not. If you are, then contact her. If not, simply delete her email.
I have emailed and went on dates with women who I knew would be trouble based on what they had in their profile. But I was physically attracted enough to email those women anyway. I had some good times with a few women and wasted my time with many others.
In your case this woman emailed you, which means she is interested in you. I wouldn’t worry about you not fitting the criteria in her profile because by emailing you she has implied you bypassed her initial screening.
Regarding her not wanting a relationship (based on what she said in her profile) I would say that is probably bullshit. Nearly every single woman I have ever met in my life would get into a relationship even if the timing weren’t perfect as long as it was with the right guy.
In other words, if you two hit it off she would very likely be interested in a relationship with you. Don’t worry about that though. Focus first on having a great first date (if you’re interested in her).
The question you have to ask yourself is if taking a chance on this woman is worth your time. If you haven’t been on many dates recently, you would probably learn a lot (about women and yourself) by going out with her even if things didn’t work out.
If it were me, and I was attracted to her enough, I would probably take the chance by taking her out. On the other hand, if she sounds like a complete basket case in her profile I would just delete her email, regardless of how attracted I was.
If you decide to take her out, let me know how it goes. Good luck, man.
Brandon Duran