If you’ve been learning about seduction and meeting women, you’ve likely learned about using rehearsed routines.

If you’re not familiar with routines, they are entertaining stories or jokes that have been proven to work at getting an intended result.

For example, an intended result of using a routine at a certain point in conversation might be to make a woman laugh or gain rapport with her.

Routines have been successfully used to help guys who get tongue tied around women to start and keep conversations going.

Rather than having to come up with unique material every time you talk to a new woman, you could use a proven routine to break the ice or to get a laugh. Used that way, routines can be very helpful when meeting new women.

However, using routines to meet women can very quickly go from being helpful to making it harder to connect with women.

Rather than using routines to transition into a normal conversation, some guys keep routines going, one after another, until they run out of material or until the woman leaves.

If the woman sticks around until the end of the routines, she will notice a stark contrast from a guy who was charming and funny at first to a guy who quickly becomes quiet or weird. At that point she will leave.

This is why basing your game plan for meeting women only on routines is a recipe for failure.

If your goal is to not only meet and date beautiful women, but to also keep them in your life longer than just a night or two, you’re going to have to evolve your game beyond routines and other psychological tricks because their effects are short lasting.

A Better Way to Meet Women

Like I said, routines can be very helpful if you have no idea what to say when meeting new women, but after you get the conversation going it’s necessary to become yourself again.

You can do that by emphasizing parts of your personality that women find naturally attractive.

For some guys that means cracking jokes and getting laughs, for other guys that might be talking about their passions.

Not being afraid to share (and expose) your personality comes across as being confident and comfortable with yourself, which most women want in a man and find attractive.

The goal is to express your personality in a way that highlights those attractive qualities.

So, rather than depending on routines to get a woman attracted to you, use a routine or two to break the ice and then get things rolling with your personality.

Sure, you’ll lose some women, but you will connect much better with the women who do stick around.

If you’re just learning to start conversations with new women it is fine to use a routine or two, but learn why the routine works at getting a laugh or breaking the ice and then take something from your life that accomplishes the same thing.

Do that enough and you’ll quickly learn how to leverage your personality in an attractive way to meet women and you’ll never “run out of material” again.

Brandon Duran

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